When the infant expresses wants and Mother responds with provision and connection. He attains a love deposit. He needs to internalize many deposits, to achieve Emotional permanence. Then he then he is loved when is left alone. He can relate to his mother when she is absent from his presence.
The ability to relate is the main emotional muscle to stay connected to others in relationships. Without achieve emotional permanence, the individual feels terror and loneliness a as soon as his or her partner departs their presence. As a result, he abandons the relationship during separation or conflicts.
Lack of emotional permanence manifest in absence of emotional stability and oscillation between fear and love.
